The Twelve Stages of Humility

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The Twelve Stages of Humility

Thursday, December 15, 2011

 

"These are the stages to freedom from self centeredness, to humility, the centerpiece of the true life…."
-- John McQuiston II
 
At this week’s staff meeting, we read “The Twelve Stages of Humility,” (pp.39-44 Always We Begin Again). 
 
“Why twelve?” we wondered. Someone offered to investigate.
 
The first stage is the foundation of all the others, we concluded, and of all life:
 
“The first stage of humility is to keep the sacred nature of consciousness
and the world in which it exists
always alive within us…
Every moment that we live is irreplaceable,
therefore each moment is hallowed.” 
 
Yet other stages made us bristle. Is it really true that we are to be thankful even for injuries, that our desires are the path to disaster, and that our lives are of no consequence? Doesn’t that contradict the first stage? One stage made us laugh in rueful recognition of judgmental tendencies:
 
“We must restrain not only our criticism
but also our advice,
offering it only when requested,
and then only with sincere misgiving.”
 
Still others brought us to silent pondering: The third stage is to accept our limitations even unto death; to accept that there are events outside of our control… the fourth is to maintain a quiet mind… the fifth is not to conceal our faults… the sixth is be to content with the work we are given to do…the eleventh is to speak gently, and briefly…
 
As we spoke, I kept thinking of something I read years ago about how enjoyable it is to be in the company of the humble, because they are intently interested in you, and have no need to speak of themselves. They provide a spaciousness that allows us to relax and be ourselves. 
 
A line from an Advent prayer also came to mind, which speaks of Jesus coming to us in great humility.
 
“Day and night we must return to humility," McQuiston writes, "and use it as a compass to guide us on the true course."

Carlyle Gill

The night before I was ordained a priest I read a great article, "Because Beset With Weakness" by Michael Buckley. It really speaks to humility for all of us. I will send you a copy.

David Shaw

The word 'misgiving' caught my attention here. A word I never carefully considered before. A gift that missed the mark, a gift that was not needed or did not help. Could it be that the best gift is one that is withheld despite our desire to give it?

Mariann Budde

I look forward to it. Thanks so much.

Kathy Jankowski

I'd like to suggest that every moment is not ours, we are being lived, and that is why for me gratitude is the starting point. You may like this poem. Thank you for sharing your conversation. ---------------------- Thanks Listen with the night falling we are saying thank you we are stopping on the bridges to bow for the railings we are running out of the glass rooms with our mouths full of food to look at the sky and say thank you we are standing by the water looking out in different directions. back from a series of hospitals back from a mugging after funerals we are saying thank you after the news of the dead whether or not we knew them we are saying thank you looking up from tables we are saying thank you in a culture up to its chin in shame living in the stench it has chosen we are saying thank you over telephones we are saying thank you in doorways and in the backs of cars and in elevators remembering wars and the police at the back door and the beatings on stairs we are saying thank you in the banks that use us we are saying thank you with the crooks in office with the rich and fashionable unchanged we go on saying thank you thank you with the animals dying around us our lost feelings we are saying thank you with the forests falling faster than the minutes of our lives we are saying thank you with the words going out like cells of a brain with the cities growing over us like the earth we are saying thank you faster and faster with nobody listening we are saying thank you we are saying thank you and waving dark though it is ~ W.S Merwin, from The Rain in the Trees

John Trumbo

Hello! I have been reading along with you this Advent, and noted the 3rd and 4th stages of humility: "... to accept our limitations, even to death" and "... to maintain a quiet mind, even in the face of inequity, injury, and contradiction... and accordingly to be thankful even for injuries." My 89-year-old father fell and broke his wrist this past week and we are both learning to stop and be patient, both with the limits of our respective bodies as well as with each other as caregiver and care-receiver. Not an easy task for either of us, I'm afraid, but a beneficial Advent gift nonetheless!

Terry

Full of sanleit points. Don't stop believing or writing!



 

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